Does anyone find this a little disturbing, distasteful or just plain wrong? Now people are throwing divorce parities? I find this sad.
Many Throw Parties to Toast Divorces
Celebrating a New Beginning Without the Old Spouse
Oct.
16, 2005 — After three decades of marriage and years of fighting over a nasty divorce settlement, it's time for Madalyn Pollit to party. As she toasts to "the beginning of the best years of my life," Eollitt is part of a trend of women and men embracing their breakups with divorce parties.
"A new season, a new me, a new beginning: That's why I wanted the party," Pollit said. "I wanted to celebrate my new life." Part celebration, part exorcism, the parties typically involve a signature cocktail — marriage on the rocks. And, it wouldn't be a party without some games. Remember Diane Keaton tossing her wedding ring into a glass of champagne in "The First Wives Club"? Well, there's throw the wedding ring in the toilet" and "pin the blame on the ex." And there usually are voodoo dolls. Less Shame? With nearly half of all marriages ending before 'til death do us part, divorce has gone from a private shame to a peculiar rite of passage. Even in the Muslim world,
where divorce is still a disgrace, divorce parties offer a way for women to redeem themselves.
In Morocco, single men are invited to the party and they bring the woman perfume, money, even camels. The party lasts for three days or as long as it takes for the woman to find a new ompanion.
America may not have the camels, but we do have businesses that are cashing in on the breakup
party circuit. Plumparty.com sells all the fixings for a great bash. Theytookeverything.com offers a divorce gift registry. And, thousands of copies of "How to Throw a Divorce or Breakup Party" have been sold.
The Right Time to Party?
But this trend doesn't put everyone in the party mood. Some divorcees believe the end of a sacred union weighs too heavy on the heart. "I don't find anything funny about divorce at all," said Jim Clarke, who is divorced. "I find the whole experience rather tragic." But marriage
therapist Helen Rudinsky says there can be a right time to celebrate. "You're not grieving, you're not pining over the relationship," said Rudinsky, who practices in Washington, D.C. "You wish them well. It didn't work out. You're going forward." "It's a different kind of party," Madalynn
Politt said. "It's kind of like a New Year's Eve celebration, but it's a new life's eve celebration."
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3 comments:
I find the idea of a divorce party completely absured. They are celebrating the break-up of not just a sacred union, but that of a family.
I am glad to see others in the world who find this as absurd as I do.
Thanks for sharing that.
Ok, Mese I love you bunches and you know that.... Let's think about this.... The party may not be to celebrate a divorce or the break up of a sacred union or even a family but it may be to try to celebrate a new beginning. A party to accept the reality that what once was is not longer, and that whether they like it or not you must move on with your life. People have parties for a lot of different and weird reasons, for example when someone dies, they have a party to celebrate their life and their accomplishments, and no one finds that sad or disturbing, after all they just died and you are having a BIG party. I think if you want to celebrate the fact that you now have to start a new life, or to celebrate that everything is set and done and you don't have to deal with the ugliness of the whole divorce process (that we know it can get pretty ugly), let them, we all deal with our realities in different ways, no one has the right to criticized them or pass judgment because that is the way they choose to make light of the circumstances. We need to remember that for the most part people don’t get married thinking that they are going to get divorce… divorce is a hard decision and a pretty painful process. We start a marriage with a big celebration why not end one with another one after all is the beginning of a new life, this time you just have to do it alone.
In Malachi 2:16 the Lord says, "I hate divorce."
So for me, if it doesn't glorify God, it doesn't happen.
I agree with Kelly, that the person who celebrates a divorce, is also celebrating the ripping apart of one flesh becoming two.
The world view of "Moving on with your life" is not what Jesus Christ died for. He did not die for our happiness. He died for hour Holiness.
That is why Paul the Apostle wrote so much of "...dying to the flesh daily..."
The bible says "things of the flesh are death. Things of the spirit are life and peace."
As for me, I will worship the LORD and obey Him in everything. He tells me that my life is no longer my own. I was bought with a price. That price is Jesus Christ crucified and resurrected.
This is a touchy subject for me, since my wife is filing for divorce after 17 years of marriage. My heart is already breaking. If she does throw a party like this, the pain would get worse.
However, I will continue to draw closer to Him for comfort and strength.
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